A picture is worth a thousand words, a video, entire volumes.
There is a video making its way around the internet right now that has a lot of people talking; the video has garnered 5 million views at the time of this writing.
The video accurately describes the dark morass young people find themselves in today when it comes to dating.
In 27 seconds, maybe even a little less, the video showcases a young man in an earlier decade approaching a young woman and asking for her number.
Everything about the encounter seems idyllic and hearkens back to an earlier, simpler time in America.
Then suddenly, without warning, the video pans to a young man in modern times swiping left or right on some dating app on his phone—the kid looks miserable, and the scene is without color.
I thought this video was incredibly powerful and in 27 seconds accurately described what has been done to dating in modern-day America.
The dating scene for young people in America today is dystopian and represents a deeper problem.
If members of the opposite sex are reduced to swipes on a screen then what can we say about the future of our country?
Dating is not some frivolous topic relegated to the candy shop. Dating is where marriage starts. If people want to protect the institution of marriage they should take care that the precursor to marriage remains viable and isn’t a wasteland.
If people stop dating and stop taking that seriously then marriage is next, marriage is already suffering as an institution and it is directly because of feminism. The introduction of certain digital technologies has only exacerbated this problem.
Online dating apps like Tinder and Bumble only commodify people, create analysis paralysis, cheapen the dating experience through unrealistic expectations, and ultimately leave people hopelessly alone.
After all, why work hard at building a long-term relationship when you can just play the swipe game all day?
Of course, a long-term relationship is better and comes with its own fruits, but somehow young people don’t understand this until it is too late in many cases. Youth is wasted on the young as the old adage goes.
Moreover, this tech is nascent. It’s really young and history often happens to us faster than we can grasp it. We do not yet truly know the extent of the effects these digital technologies have had on people.
Certain sects of the Amish have an incredibly wise rule: they will use technology on a rolling basis. Once a certain technology has been around for 100 years, they will use it. The brilliance of this can not be understated.
Why be an early adopter? Why not wait and see what new tech does to others before adopting it yourself?
If people stop dating, and stop marrying, and stop having kids, then there goes the species. Dating is that serious. The future of the species depends on amicable, sustainable long-term relationships between men and women.
Online dating, feminism, porn, polyamory, polygamy, hypergamy, all of these things degrade monogamy and by extension the entire species.
Of course, these are just my musings, and I am just some guy, take a look at the video and reports below and let me know what you think.
man… pic.twitter.com/Ht9zONHLok
— shoe (@shoe0nhead) December 13, 2023
Modern dating is fucked.
Ever since modern feminism it's been a hell.
Households in the 1900s you'd never see these situations
Prove me wrong
— Nicky Veenhof (@Nicky_Veenh0f) December 17, 2023
Earlier this month CNN penned this piece decrying the pitfalls of online dating:
Many people agreed, and it’s hard not to see their point. With thousands of options at your fingertips, many people looking for relationships claim that apps have made dating a slog — an endless journey of swiping, recycled small talk and inevitable ghosting.
“Dating on the apps, it’s ruined dating a bit,” Nguyen-Don, who works as a digital marketing manager, said.
“Everyone is so spoiled for choice.” But, she continued, the apps are just a tool. Are they really to blame?
One individual presented this chart showing how couples have met in the United States over the past seven decades, notice the vertical spike in online dating since the mid-2000s.
the “online” one makes sense but the “through friends” one & others almost dipping to zero….
we are insanely atomized.
how did you meet your s.o? pic.twitter.com/cvpaEQLgVc
— shoe (@shoe0nhead) December 13, 2023
Modern dating's lost its charm. It's all swipes and likes now, no real connection. Everyone's wearing masks, playing parts in a scripted drama where authenticity is the first casualty https://t.co/9cLOD7KScx
— Pajtim (@Pajtim90) December 10, 2023
The Guardian featured a similar piece, note that both the CNN piece and this article from The Guardian were both written by women:
Many say the apps feel like work and there is a genuine sense of burnout as people struggle to commit to what is essentially hours of admin a week alongside their day jobs and other responsibilities.
And even those who have their pick of matches have found themselves having an unenjoyable experience.
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